Posts Tagged ‘dating’

Dear Sis: He just stopped calling?

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Posted 31 Aug 2011 — by Harry
Category Dear Sis, Rants

I keep getting asked to write this blog. I have resisted because I must sheepishly admit that I’ve done one or two ‘cease and desist’ breakups before.

As I am (or have on occasion, been) one of those pricks, I can give you the inside scoop.

But first, let’s be honest, if a guy ‘just stops calling you’ then things weren’t ‘going great’. They sucked, in some way or another, and your ability to recognise and be honest about that is really important. We should all remember that the world operates how it does regardless of how we like to imagine it does. Learn to spot the warning signs.

Disclaimer: Some of these scenarios might seem a bit autobiographical, but any resemblance to real people, living or dead, is purely incidental and possibly also accurate. Read More

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Girls gossip, and size does matter

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Posted 18 Jan 2011 — by Harry
Category Dear Sis, Provocative

There are a variety of factors that conspire to make us men feel inadequate about sex. Porn doesn’t help – it’s not only bad for our penis-envy, it’s also terrible training. But beyond that, there is also the problem of the female propensity to discuss sex.

Women seem to think that it is men that talk about sex a lot. It’s an utter fallacy.

We talk about who we’d like to have sex with, and how we might go about getting that sex, but when it comes to the post-coital debrief with mates, male sex conversations go like this:

“So how’d it go?”

“Yeah good”

“Did you root her?”

“Yep”

“Nice. Was it good?”

“Yep”

And that’s it. That’s pretty in-depth, even for best mates. A really persistent pervert might go as far as to ask about her pubic hair cultivation or ask if you got a ‘gummy’, but only a boaster would answer.

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Dear Sis: How to find a man

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Posted 16 Nov 2010 — by harry
Category Dear Sis, How to

Sis,
Why do I continually have female friends, hot friends, funny and smart and successful friends complain to me that they can’t get a man?

Giraffes also like pies. High rise pies.

I’m a typical sex-starved male, and attractive women complaining about not getting sex is a bit like having a next-door neighbour who puts her tasty-smelling pies on the windowsill and then complains over the fence that no-one’s eating them; while I sit in my yard, starving to death, too polite to ask for a bite. I love pie.

But is it about the pies? All of these friends who’ve asked me this in the past few years say similar things: That they’re not picky, that they are actively looking for a man, and that they think there must be something wrong with them.

If you’re tempted to think ‘There’s something wrong with me’, you’re not going to be looking for different ways to do things, you’ll be looking for entirely different way to be. That is such a challenging idea to have in mind that some women end up repelling men rather than seducing them. You’ll seem unpredictable, unapproachable, shy, damaged.

Only abusers and losers seek out damaged women. If you want an impressive man, then be an impressive woman.

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Dear Harry: Do I look fat in this?

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Posted 22 Mar 2010 — by Harry
Category NLP, Raves

Dear Harry,
If a girl has bought a new pair of pants that she is really excited about, but you think they don’t look as great as she does, do you tell her that?”

- Sensitive

Well Sensitive, you pose an interesting question: Should I lie to a girl that has asked for my opinon? No. Do I? Occasionally – when I’m being cowardly.

There was this psychotherapist dude called Frank Farrelly who invented a thing he called Provocative Therapy. It’s bloody genius. It uses brutal honesty, humor and positive intent to empower people, give them perspective, and allow them to change.

The idea that you’re protecting someone’s feelings by lying to them is bogus. Be honest. You lie to make your own life easier. If someone close to you asks you questions and expects lies as answers, then they are all stuffed in the head and it’s your job to break that pattern. It’s not doing them any good.

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Why white girls are crazy for alphas, and betas love Bangkok

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Posted 02 Feb 2010 — by Harry
Category Rants, Travel

Through the pulsing haze of smoke, a stunning Thai girl was dancing seductively and whipping her hair at me.

“She’s gotta be a hooker” I told my mate Hale.

“Nah, she just thinks you’re hot.” he retorted.

“I know how hot I am mate, and I’ve never been that hot, particularly not in the eyes of someone like her”

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