Posts Tagged ‘provocative therapy’

Provocative Style – Hilarious therapy

Posted 02 Feb 2011 — by Harry
Category Provocative

I recently met Frank Farrelly. He’s a brilliant and cranky old bastard that found success dealing with mental patients by treating them like humans and encouraging them to laugh at their problems.

He called it Provocative Therapy. I call it Provocative Style.

His style can be challenging – in one session he obliquely called one woman a black hole that sucked the fun out of the world around her, and in another ‘therapy session’ he repeatedly screamed “Shut the fuck up!” with his Wisconsin drawl.

Surprisingly – particularly after sharing those stories, he gets results. Read More

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Dear Harry: Do I look fat in this?

Posted 22 Mar 2010 — by Harry
Category NLP, Raves

Dear Harry,
If a girl has bought a new pair of pants that she is really excited about, but you think they don’t look as great as she does, do you tell her that?

- Sensitive

Well Sensitive, you pose an interesting question: Should I lie to a girl that has asked for my opinon? No. Do I? Occasionally – when I’m being cowardly.

There was this psychotherapist dude called Frank Farrelly who invented a thing he called Provocative Therapy. It’s bloody genius. It uses brutal honesty, humor and positive intent to empower people, give them perspective, and allow them to change.

The idea that you’re protecting someone’s feelings by lying to them is bogus. Be honest. You lie to make your own life easier. If someone close to you asks you questions and expects lies as answers, then they are all stuffed in the head and it’s your job to break that pattern. It’s not doing them any good.

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